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Having a whirlwind of emotions leading up to a big move is completely normal, and at times hard to manage. Between moving for school or a change of pace – I have felt every emotion. I have lived in Providence, Chicago, San Diego and Japan! No matter the situation, I have found that as I am about to embark in a total change of life the only word that comes to mind is ‘bittersweet.’ Anyone else?
Japan to Jacksonville has been my biggest move to date, but I was oddly optimistic. Moving to a new place can be exciting, nerve wracking and have glimpses of anticipation. As someone who can often NOT look at the bright side (just being real with you all), I was surprised how I felt about the move. It was a mix of sadness leaving my Japan chapter behind (ok I was VERY sad), but open and ready to what happens next. That’s the easy part – not having expectations and embracing for hopefully, the best. I have reflected the last few weeks on self care (physically and mentally), and pushing through the dreaded transition phase. So, here is the advice that I hope helps you to maneuver your own new phase of life.
1/ Seek out the things you know you love
Even if it is for a few hours, search out what you love. Is it reading? Go to the local library. Cocktails? Treat yourself to the best happy hour. For me, finding a cafe that serves up a new coffee drink is mine. I seek out the coffee scene, big or small. Tokyo had endless amounts of coffee shops, but that doesn’t mean I can’t explore in my new, smaller city as well. Nothing brings me more joy then talking to a local business owner about their role in the community all thanks to coffee. Search for the similar in a new environment to make it feel more like home. What is that for you?
2/ Self care & time
Whenever I was going through any sort of transition, good or bad – I HATED when people told me to give it time, be patient. I still do, the only difference is I know it is true. Be kind to yourself. Most importantly, take CARE of yourself. For me that is working out (pure bare is my newest addiction), drinking water and face masks.
“So, what if, instead of thinking about solving your whole life, you just think about adding additional good things. One at a time. Just let your pile of good things grow” + Rainbow Rowell
3/ Find something that helps you grow.
Change is uncomfortable. Growth isn’t always painless. My one advice is to lean into the growing pains (or joys, especially the joys). To quote Cleo Wade, “And the best news of all is that it is never too late to become the person you’ve always wanted to be.” It is never too late to try something new – whether that be a hobby, a new book or finding new friends (heyyy BFF bumble).
4/ Lift it up
Everyone has different beliefs, religious practices and their own spiritual journey (or none at all). Whatever that is for you, now is the time to rely on that fully. Prayer is such an anxiety reliever for me. The simple act of taking it off my shoulders and trusting God’s will for my life really helps.
5/ Compare less
This may be an odd one, but it is easy to think the grass is greener for someone else. In today’s age where everyone’s Instagram is a highlight reel to their life, it enables us to feel bad about ours. Remind yourself of the reality behind social media, and focus on what makes where you live spectacular! I often get caught up in others’ lives thinking they have it all together (spoiler alert, everyone has their challenges).
Have you ever been through a big move? What helped you with the change?
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